Complimentary Story
Our postmodern culture is primed for “myths” -- those “false beliefs that deviate from the truth of God’s Word.” And the under-churched -- those between the ages of 18-35 years-old -- as especially vulnerable. This is also the age group who are most likely to marry…maybe…if it meets their individual needs. Here is a selection of myths around the controversial subject of co-habitation (also called “pre-marital adultery” (Ouch!) --
1). I’m just exercising my individual rights. This is a pervasive myth in our culture today. “Rights” is a mantra unto itself…and making it an invitation to pre-marital sex is one of the opportunities that qualifies under “my rights.”
2). No one is getting hurt by it. We begin with victims 1 and 2 -- the co-habitating partners. And let’s not ignore the child(ren) conceived in such a relationship. We could also add family members -- who are either offended by this “out-of-bounds” behavior…or attracted to do the same.
3). God’s rules don’t apply here. Yes, we just subtract the “Holy Kill Joy” from this life decision. His ideas and Commandments are way out-of-date. We make our own rules in today’s culture.
4). This is how we discover real love. These contemporary partners have devised their own lingo -- this is “making love.” Now there is a rationale that sells! This also implies that “real love” is physical in nature, rather than emotional (or spiritual). No room for God’s definition…and boundaries for love here!
5). Living together will strengthen our relationship. Let’s see, we are intentionally not making a commitment to each other (via marriage). We have signed no contract. We are experimenting with love. Now, how do these ingredients add up to a stronger relationship? Pretty important question needing an answer!
When a couple takes a serious look at these “entangling myths” they come to the realization that co-habitation puts their relationship at risk of failure vs, success. If a lasting love relationship is truly the goal, then a key is to follow God, the Author of love, and His plan for true and holy love.
