Fathers hurt, cry (sometimes), and feel pain at the loss of a child through abortion or miscarriage. They try to hide these feelings because it’s what society expects of them. However studies, where miscarriage and abortion have occurred and fathers have been interviewed, reveal that men suffer pain and loss as much as the women in those situations do, but suffer the loss differently.
“He and his girlfriend sent an email with the ultrasound of their baby attached to his mother and father, telling them they were going to be grandparents. We are expecting a baby.” The news was welcomed, but was followed shortly after by the sad news that the girlfriend had miscarried. He was stoic and trying to take it in stride; she was quiet and withdrawn and said little. The mother tried to comfort him but words and support did not seem to lessen the impact. The girlfriend opened up about her loss and seemed to be comforted by his mother’s support.
The father of the child said little about the loss of his child. He tried to make it seem like nothing “major” had happened.
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