Honoring Your Elderly Parents

I come from a somewhat dysfunctional home. My parents argued a lot as I was growing up. Now they are elderly and all the kids are adults and it is difficult to be around them when they dont get along. What is the best way to maintain the 5th commandment as an adult child in this situation?

I have yet to find the family that isnt dysfunctional in some way. Im not sure who the person or group is that determines what is functional and what is not, but every family responds to life with the coping skills that they have learned over time and at the feet of people who went before them.
Not only have we at times learned dysfunctional behaviors, we have to understand that we live in a world that has been distorted by sin and brokenness. There has only been one perfect life lived here on earth and that was by Jesus the Christ 2000 years ago. Knowing that we live in an imperfect world filled with imperfect behavior does not excuse dysfunctional behavior, but it helps us to understand it, and through understanding, we can begin to help people overcome behavior that is negative.
The parents described in this question are people who were not helped to understand more effective ways of communicating other than their arguing. This is very unfortunate, because at this time in their lives, they are so used to doing things this way that there is little likelihood that it will change. Having said that, however, doesnt relieve the children of the need to attempt to he ...