Where do we find this option in the Bible? Yes, I just introduced a standard -- an historically reliable standard -- from a top, best-selling book (on that list for centuries) to give us a reference point.
Is there Good Orderly Direction in casual sex? Yes, I really crossed the line -- I just introduced G-O-D into the answer!
Statistically, casual sex is unsuccessful sexif sex is love-making (another popular, neutralizing, phrase). You see the two don’t mix. Casual sex does not make love happen. Indeed, the reverse is far, far more common. The loss of genuine intimacy in relationships is the outcome! A far more apt phrase for this activity would be “break-up making” vs. “love-making” -- when it is sex outside of marriage (the loss of Good Orderly Direction). A full 75% of relationships involving pre-marital sex don’t make it!
The real, hidden, yet all-too-evident struggle is the ancient battle with who is God. Satan says (within his first, really big lie) -- that we can be like God (see Genesis 3:5). Yes, the devil has a main mission -- get Good Orderly Direction (a.k.a. G-O-D) out of the picture, so you can have all the devilish fun imaginable. Of course, Satan fails to mention very real consequences to such evil fun -- starting with broken hearts, and going down hill from there.
As a tie-in to marriage, casual sex has a connection to casual marriage. The divorce rate is far higher for those who believe in casual sex -- as the wedding night took place long before the wedding. And if there is freedom before marriage for fun, why not after, when the marriage gets -- you know --boring. Time for outside fun, right? No, wrong -- when it comes to Good Orderly Direction!
And more couples are choosing not to get married since they are having all the fun outside of marriage and Satan is laughing his cold, heart out! Who’s winning here?
Bottom line, if there is not Good Orderly Direction within the plan for sex... just L-U-S-T - (Losing Under Satan’s Treachery) -- then we can kiss stable marriage and family good bye!
Yes, the strong, love institutions that have been the bed-rock of culture since the beginning of time, the ones created by God for GOD, will die away and there won’t be any security left! And all of this for the sake of sexual fun and the loss of love and Good Orderly Direction.