As I grew older, however, I began to realize I needed to say more. Having counseled hundreds of couples with troubled marriages, I was surprised to learn as the years went by that for about 25% of them their marriage problems were primarily due to sexual matters.
I also learned, that for most marriages, how the couple was doing together sexually was a barometer of sorts as to the health of the marriage in its entirety. In other words, how their marriage is doing is directly tied to how they are doing with each other sexually. Generally speaking, a problem marriage means less sex. A good marriage means more sex.
I was horrified to learn that sex once a month was common and sex once every six months was not uncommon (yikes!) in problem marriages. As I counseled couples, I began to realize how much I could learn about the state of the marriage just by asking how they were doing intimately. It tends to act as an incredible gauge as to the direness of the situation.
As the years went by, I also fixed upon a common problem in troubled marriages, namely, the man had not learned how to please his wife physically. I m ...
